Words Are Rudders – Questions Are Guides
“The quality of your conversations is determined by the quality of your questions.” David Brooks
Questions:
Name a quality and ask how they developed it. You seem like a caring person. Who showed you how to care? What did they do?
Ask about energizing things. What’s the best part of your job? What about that makes you say it’s the best part?
Ask about values. What’s important to you about …? Ask them how that came to be important for them.
Ask about responses. What was that like for you?
Focus:
What do you want people to focus on?
Your questions establish, limit, and maintain the focus of others. When you ask about problems, people focus on what’s wrong. When you ask about getting better, people focus on improvement.
Tip: Ask questions people love to answer.
How do you invite conversations that build healthy relationship?
